tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.comments2022-11-10T21:05:53.166-05:00Divorce, Children and Psychology in Family CourtAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18290580844825868186noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-31108055556271967132015-01-23T08:09:57.331-05:002015-01-23T08:09:57.331-05:00This kind of scenario unfortunately is not so unco...This kind of scenario unfortunately is not so uncommon. It sounds like this is currently in court. If so, she would have to prove her allegations of interference, etc. But you still should weigh the possible advantages of continued litigation to protect yourself against the remaining years of child support costs against the potential legal fees involved with no guarantee that you will prevail. Unless the court believes that she purposely defrauded you, the judge may be inclined to let it be and is unlikely to have her reimburse you for past years of child support. Even if the court ordered her to reimburse you, it would be unlikely that you would collect. You should see an attorney because this is very fact sensitive. Lots of luck to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290580844825868186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-47294541761280437672014-06-15T22:05:59.547-04:002014-06-15T22:05:59.547-04:00I have a very interesting scenario for you. I bel...I have a very interesting scenario for you. I believed I had a son for the past 16 years. I have faithfully paid support. I have not seen the child in 14 years because the family moved away without forwarding information . The mother does not work, has been on social assistance for at least 18 years, and commenced actions to increase the amount of support in Oct ober of last year. I had lost my job 2 weeks after the motion was brought forward( Was working for 15 yrs at the company). I was given a severence package, there was a shortage of work. So I went to court prepared to seek a reduction in payment until I was again gainfully employed. I also remembered to request a DNA test to comfirm paternity, I did not forget what she had said to me. Low and behold the results came back stating I was NOT the father. Then she commenced in telling the courts I always knew there was a possibility I was not the father. I obtained a copy of her origional affidavit and of course there was no mention of that little tidbit of info for the courts to consider. If I had known the possibility was there I would have dealt with DNA then and spared myself paying 16 yeras of child support for a child that wasn't mine and I didn't even have the pleasure of having a relationship with. I have asked the court to reimburse the support I have paid over the years, now she is accusing me of things to back up her lies. She is lying about visits I supposedly made to her residence as recent as May or June of 2013( ironically a few months before she brought me back to court). Trying to maintain that I was involved with her and the child. She is accusing me of interferring with her daughter back in 1998 or 1999 and saying I only asked for a DNA test because she asked for more monay. She defrauded the court, misrepresented facts on the origional affidavit, and I'm the one who has to pay for it because she knows that the courts always assume guilty when accusations like that come up. How's that for justice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-16388200102841560762014-05-12T14:16:40.187-04:002014-05-12T14:16:40.187-04:00Sounds pretty horrible. Sorry you are going throug...Sounds pretty horrible. Sorry you are going through that. I am guessing that the Judge may want to refer this for further investigation with the child protective services agency in our state. Here in NJ, it is quite common for the Court to send all the parties for psychological evaluations as well. Eventually they cut through all of the animosity and figure out what is truly in the children's best interests. Good luck. JDGAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290580844825868186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-88638593409031427812014-05-10T10:27:45.230-04:002014-05-10T10:27:45.230-04:00I'm going through the thing. My ex is being re...I'm going through the thing. My ex is being really vindictive and trying to destroy me at all costs. He is not a good father, my daughter tells me she got burned trying to make herself food because she was hungry and he wouldn't wake up. (She will be six this month) he goes shopping and leaves her sleeping in the car, he leaves her unattended at his home, it's so bad she has developed abandonment issues. Recently, he is trying to fight me for custody. He kept emailing me and I finally told him to stop or I'll put harassment charges on him. Well, lo and behold, guess who got one? Yeah he has temporary custody of my daughter until we have court on the 21st. He is very vindictive and just trying to make things impossible. I hope the judge can seeAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16171699040279833459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-72308896972337370012014-01-15T07:37:49.839-05:002014-01-15T07:37:49.839-05:00On the upside, we both knew we had to put our chil...On the upside, we both knew we had to put our children first and that we wanted to part ways as reasonably as possible. David translated that into the legal documents needed to allow us to achieve what we felt made sense. <a href="http://www.equitablemediation.com/bridgewater-nj/" rel="nofollow">Equitable Mediation Services</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11805059262641706631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-43169131194379921552013-11-21T09:03:10.089-05:002013-11-21T09:03:10.089-05:00If there is no history of domestic violence, you c...If there is no history of domestic violence, you can both go for mediation or counseling. If you are walking on eggshells, it might take some individual counseling for you to feel stronger and to change the role you play with him. There are a lot of issues involved and obviously I don't know your situation, so I can't adequately advise you here. Feel free to call me or email to discuss further. Hope to hear from you if I can help. Best, JonathanAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290580844825868186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-29761001260412417412013-11-21T04:54:32.531-05:002013-11-21T04:54:32.531-05:00You have described my situation perfectly. I walk ...You have described my situation perfectly. I walk on eggshells with my recently divorced spouse. I have the majority of parenting time and still get intimidated. At this point is it a good idea to get us both into some sort of post-marital counseling? Do you do that kind of work? Can you make recommendations to the court if you are counseling a couple in co parenting?Emilyhttp://anonymous.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-62458436877067182652013-04-24T19:17:27.028-04:002013-04-24T19:17:27.028-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02755986074465284383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-82521148245208596642013-03-27T14:10:57.820-04:002013-03-27T14:10:57.820-04:00Dr. John,
I’m going through exactly what you have ...Dr. John,<br />I’m going through exactly what you have discussed. My wife worked out a plan with her mother to destroy my, my life and used the system to do that, by falsely alleging that I molested my two boys (2 &4 years old, to get divorced, control the custody of the boys and get all of my financial assets (she never worked or earned a dime in her entire life). Her mother is known for fabricating stuff like this in our home country. She got me charged with seven counts of incest and aggravated sexual abuse through biased detective and DA. I posted a$200,000 to get out of jail. Two months later, when my attorney and his investigator gathered enough proofs that she fabricated the whole thing, she went to the biased detective again and accused me with tampering and intimidating a witness. I got arrested at my work place, got fired from my work after the detective announced the nasty nature of my charges. I was jailed for another 70 days, with $800,000 bond. The bond was reduced later to $300,000 bond after the preliminary hearing, when the honorable judge found out about all the lies in the allegations. I spent almost $120,000 on legal fees and bails until now, eventually facing a trail within five months.<br />I’m losing my house now ($500,000); she is enjoying it by herself and her mother, while I’m currently unemployed and live in a nasty place, continue to pay $2,800 monthly mortgage for the house. The whole system is corrupt. She chose to do this here in the US because she couldn’t find a better justice system to abuse back home. The system allows for this malicious actions by EXs. The rape kit and the DNA results came back proving my innocence, no physical evidence what so ever. In fact, they found a piece of tissue with semen in it in the kids’ bathroom’s garbage can; it was proven through the forensic analysis that it is her tissue. She threw it there after a sexual intercourse between us, two days before the allegation was made. But the DA and the detective don’t give a rat ass about the truth, they are dead set on convicting me, and send me to prison for the rest of my life. I guess they will only feel my pain if their EXs done the same thing to them. I have a great attorney, but I’m not sure if I’ll be even able to survive till the end of the process. I haven’t seen my kids for six months now, treated like a criminal. I’m not sure what their mother and grandmother is telling them about me. I’m so devastated and feel the betrayal, thanks for the United States justice system that rewarded false accusers for their behavior.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-51897147943585497882013-02-28T14:26:38.860-05:002013-02-28T14:26:38.860-05:00I think after Divorce people get stressed and thei...I think after Divorce people get stressed and their behavior become rudely.Can you agree with me?<br /><a href="http://www.pasadenadivorcelawyer.net/" rel="nofollow">LA Divorce Lawyers</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09600120418631114249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-33519337079310661642012-11-20T14:25:42.726-05:002012-11-20T14:25:42.726-05:00I hope you hang this up in a divorce court. The ni...I hope you hang this up in a divorce court. The nicest people turn different (with loads of bad karma) after the stress of divorce starts taking its toll! Ellenhttp://www.oklahomalegalgroup.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-16552233551095780642012-02-27T20:25:37.726-05:002012-02-27T20:25:37.726-05:00Thanks for the comment! I couldn't agree more....Thanks for the comment! I couldn't agree more. Unfortunately because attorneys are inherently advocates for their client's position, the flames can be fanned quite easily. Maybe if the courts imposed a mandatory cooling off period, or mandatory mediation, etc., before going into full blown litigation, perhaps some parents might be enlightened before it's too late.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290580844825868186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021238510382639031.post-58261452089550820512012-02-26T14:23:40.306-05:002012-02-26T14:23:40.306-05:00We desperately need some programs in the court sys...We desperately need some programs in the court systems to educate parents on how destructive their custody wars are to the children for the rest of their lives and how to minimize the damage.<br /><br />Boyd Lemon-Author of Digging Deep: A Writer Uncovers His Marriages.<br />Excerpts, reviews and information, http://www.BoydLemon-Writer.com.Boyd Lemonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805947668825846301noreply@blogger.com